Finding Harmony

This last week has been horrific, extremely troubling, anxiety-producing and yet could be revolutionary.  I actually have some hope that things will change and be different now.  I’m looking at the harmony I’m beginning to see in these protests.  Police officers are bending on one knee in solidarity with protestors.  Protestors are hugging police officers.  A protester in San Jose helped to carry a police officer to safety when he went down.  The New York Police Chief stood in solidarity with the protestors and told the world this is how it’s done!  We’ve never seen that in the past and I see it as a hopeful sign.

“The place in which I’ll fit will not exist until I make it,” so said James Baldwin a few decades ago.  I believe the people in the United States are beginning to make a place for all people and that didn’t exist before.  Through this appalling chain of events where People of Color have been killed, we are watching white people for the first time take part with efforts of solidarity and not claiming the space for People of Color, but rather walking beside them as allies.  We as white people are not the be all and end all of declaring what is right and we are actually allowing, at least many of us, People of Color to take the lead.  This is how it should be to rid ourselves of white supremacy.  I was very young during the riots of the late 60’s so I didn’t pay as much attention, but this time it feels different.  I sense a feeling in the air of cohesion, a sense of solidarity and not one of ownership by white people.  It is time we take a back seat and only offer to help when help is needed.  It is time we take a front seat however on changing legislation to increase the level of equity in our institutions and society for People of Color.

It is time.

That’s how we can find harmony, by creating a society intent on equity and equality.  We can find harmony in the every day, by our everyday actions, by being conscious of the biases held deep within our psyches and by acting on the new knowledge we have on how our systemic biases and institutions have perpetuated white supremacy all these centuries.  We really will gain peace within ourselves when all are equal.  “Injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere,” quoting Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.  We can never truly live in harmony when there are parts of us in disharmony.

Let us move through this time knowing we are on the right path to harmony.  Do not waste this moment, but use it to create that world we want to live in, a harmonious, gentle, peaceful place.

May it be so.  Blessed be.

Blessings to you all.

During this time

Do you ever have those days where you feel your mind is blank, where maybe you’re in a fog and you just can’t see ahead of you what is next?  I am feeling like that these days.  Tuesday runs into Wednesday runs into Thursday and sometimes I can’t tell you what day is what.  Our lives are radically different, even those of us who are still working or are retired and feel financially secure.  Our lives are different.  And not how we planned them.

I’ve been struggling with writing this monthly article as I write this today.  Mainly because I don’t want to dwell on our current circumstances, and yet, it feels a bit disingenuous to bring joy and optimism right now.  We do have much to be grateful for, I have a new settled ministry to anticipate as does Mission Peak which truly is joyous!  And I’m beginning to think as a short-timer and know that the sadness of leaving you is fast approaching.  And the fact that I may not be able to say good-bye in person is something I simply cannot contemplate right now.

What I am grateful for right now is that I’ve had the opportunity to read more, to contemplate, to meditate, to review my special poems and books that mean so much to me.  That has given me solace through this time of change and insecurity and doubt about the future.  I feel comforted by the words in my favorite books, the words in my new books yet unread, the poems that comfort me and spirit me off into a different world.

Here is one of my favorites, I hope you enjoy.

Clearing

BY MORGAN FARLEY

I am clearing a space
here, where the trees stand back.
I am making a circle so open
the moon will fall in love
and stroke these grasses with her silver.

I am setting stones in the four directions,
stones that have called my name
from mountaintops and riverbeds, canyons and mesas.
Here I will stand with my hands empty,
mind gaping under the moon.

I know there is another way to live.
When I find it, the angels
will cry out in rapture,
each cell of my body
will be a rose, a star.

If something seized my life tonight,
if a sudden wind swept through me,
changing everything,
I would not resist.
I am ready for whatever comes.

But I think it will be
something small, an animal
padding out from the shadows,
or a word spoken so softly
I hear it inside.

It is dark out here, and cold.
The moon is stone.
I am alone with my longing.
Nothing is happening
but the next breath.

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Posted by kind permission of the poet on https://gratefulness.org/resource/clearing/

Loving blessings to you all.

Rev. Jo

Ministerial Musings

As I write this the day before it is printed in our beloved Week on the Peak, it is Cinco de Mayo, the 26th anniversary of the founding of this congregation, and the 201st anniversary of the Baltimore Sermon.  For those UU’s who aren’t familiar with the Baltimore Sermon, it is the defining moment where Rev. William Ellery Channing spoke for an hour and a half at an ordination about the meaning of Unitarianism and what it truly meant.  It was groundbreaking at the time, challenging the more orthodox factions and declaring a more Unitarian liberal view of orthodoxy.  It is the moment we truly declared that we believed in the doctrine of God’s Unity as Channing stated it and not in three separate divinities.  It was groundbreaking and actually created factions then in separating Unitarians, Congregationalists and the Standing Order churches of the time.  He became the defining leader of Unitarianism and is informally called the “Father of Unitarianism” and his sermon became known as the Baltimore Sermon.

This month our theme is Integrity and Channing represents integrity as far as Unitarianism considers it.  In public debate, he withstood the highest criticisms from more conservative factions of Christianity and he not only weathered the tumult but thrived on it.  Integrity is defined much by using the words, honesty, morality, ethical, principled, valued.  When I think of integrity, it defines for me a way to live my life.  A way to live honestly, ethically, in kindness and love, with regard to not only myself but to all others as well.  During this tumultuous time, I am watching those without integrity create chaos in many cities across our nation.  Where is the integrity to bring an automatic rifle to a rally to break the restrictions each state has set up?  Where is the integrity to scream in the face of a police officer not wearing a mask in this day of the Covid-19 pandemic?  Where is the integrity to blatantly ignore the regulations laid down by our Governors to ensure the safety of all?  I am very bothered and angered by the behavior of some who for many reasons are frightened and angry and frustrated.  That is not the reaction however that will ensure the safety of others.  In fact, they are endangering others when they bring an automatic rifle to a gathering that is only meant to protest.  And may I add that these are white privileged men getting away with this behavior.  If they were people of color, they would be in jail. Can you picture an African American man screaming in the face of a police officer while holding a gun and not being taken down and arrested or possibly even shot?  When I see these pictures and see what these white men are getting away with, it enrages me.  Not only are they endangering the health of the police officers in front of them, their behaviors are flying in the face of our democracy and what this country stands for and possibly endangering the lives of others by spreading the virus.

As a people of integrity, what do we do when we see others acting without integrity?  Is there anything we can do?  I don’t have the answer to that right now.  In the face of this pandemic, I am attending 3-5 Zoom meetings per day and must admit, I’m tired.  I only seem to have the energy to get angry at them, but not create a solution.  There may not be anything that I can do, especially now where I am intent on Sheltering in Place.  So I lay these thoughts down for you today as food for thought, as a deliberation to consider and to reaffirm the integrity you all are keeping right now by Sheltering in Place.  It is vital that we keep our integrity in the face of those who are not.

And congratulations Mission Peak UU for 26 years of being a united community!  It feels like years ago that we celebrated the 25th, and yet one year ago we did.  I know in my heart you will continue to grow, to learn, to love each other and to be the Unitarian Universalist congregation you are striving to be.

Oh, and I won’t even comment on Cinco de Mayo.  That’s a whole other musing about appropriation I won’t even go into today.

Loving blessings to you all.

Rev. Jo

 

 

Breathe In, Breathe Out

Breathe in, Breathe out.  That’s what a lot of us have been saying these last few weeks, trying to keep ourselves calm and focused.  Stress seems to be piling up on all of us, we feel irritable, scared, anxious, even when we tell our brains that it will be alright, that we will disable this virus and have our lives back to the way that they used to be.

I just want to reiterate how serious this time is in which we live.  We may feel that we are on the downtick, that the worst is over, that we can relax our restrictions and go back to living our normal lives, lives we are used to, lives that feel very familiar.  I want to tell you not to do that yet.  We still need to stay sheltered in place; we still need to wear masks when we venture outside, we still need to appropriately keep our distance from others we don’t already live with.  We still need to do the opposite of hoarding needed supplies.  We still need to reach out virtually with others to ensure they are okay and feeling well.  We still need to help our neighbors who may need our help.  We still need to tell others how much we love them.

It’s such a frustrating time, especially when we feel okay.  I want to go outside, I’m sure many of you have said, I feel fine!  But this is the time the virus can make a comeback because we feel like the worst is over and we return to normalcy.

I want to just reiterate today that we can’t do that.  I know some folks are getting antsy, and in our area we have been managing gallantly, even what I would call heroically!  We can be proud of the San Francisco Bay Area as we really have stepped up and done our part.  And our congregation has been heroic!  Our Pastoral Associates have been calling members and friends to check on them and just say hi.  Our tech team of Steve and Graham have been amazing in ensuring our services and meetings and get togethers have occurred on Zoom.  Our choir even held an All Music Sunday this past Sunday!  It was amazing to hear the talent that our members offered up to the congregation on the Internet and it went so smoothly, it was amazing!  Our Canvass Committee is continuing to collect pledges and create a budget for next year, even by giving this amazing video report during the service last week.  So many have given unselfishly of their time and skill to ensure that our community continues on in almost every way.

So your continued vigilance means a lot.  I want you to know that you mean so much to me.  Your lives mean so much to me.  We have suffered a loss in our congregation in the last week and that brings even closer how much each and every one of you mean to me.  I know I announced my new congregation to you on Sunday and it feels more real that I will be leaving you this summer.  If I haven’t said it enough, you all live deep in my heart and will forevermore.

Stay safe.  Stay healthy.  You don’t need to do more than you are.  Take time to breathe, take time to meditate, take time for self-care.  Now more than ever that is vitally important.

And you are all vitally important to me.  I love you all deeply.

Loving blessings to you all.

Rev. Jo

Feeling Blessed

You do not need to know precisely what is happening, or exactly where it is all going.  What you need is to recognize the possibilities and challenges offered by the present moment, and to embrace them with courage, faith, and hope.

~Thomas Merton

If ever there was a time to heed Thomas Merton’s words, it is now.  The new Shelter in Place instructions have begun and our lives have taken a turn that we really have never gone down.  As we watch, state after state and the national government are requiring stricter and more stringent guidelines to follow to ensure the containment of the Covid-19 virus that has killed some and sickened so many thousands.  I feel lucky that our government has begun to take actions for containment and pray that the citizens here in this country will heed them and abide by them.  It feels hard though, doesn’t it?  We can’t stand near each other, hug each other, go places, or laugh with one another in person.  All we have now is our technology and actually that is a blessing that we can look at.

One of the by-products that I feel is a blessing is how our planet is now being taken care of in a much better way.  I hear that the Chinese for the first time in I don’t know how many years can actually see the sky.  The pollution has dissipated so much that they can see the sky.  Half of our planes are grounded and so many working from home here in the US has helped our air to become cleaner.  We’re using less gas and electricity.  And yes, businesses are suffering, lacking customers and income, so many hourly workers are having their hours cut with no benefits or pay to replace their income.  How will they pay their rent and utilities and child care?  Our world right now is turned upside down in a way, as Americans, most of us have never experienced.  I’ve never entered a grocery store before where there wasn’t a single egg to buy, any paper products, especially toilet paper.  I can only imagine that this is what my parents experienced during World War II.  They had rationing, you could only buy so much, and they used to tell me about this.  But until one has experienced this first hand, it’s really kind of hard to understand.

Our congregation is experiencing a new way to worship.  Last Sunday we held our first streaming Sunday service with our Youth providing the entire service and it was wonderful!  It also was so gratifying to see our members log in and attend online and then later give praise and admiration to our youth for a job well done.  There are many changes with which we will have to accustom ourselves in the coming weeks.  We did not include Joys and Concerns and are working on a way to do that in the next services to come.  We are looking at creating some Zoom meetings just to connect with each other and be able to talk to each other, kind of like Small Group Ministries online.  I am going to have a Coffee Chat on Zoom so look for that!  We also have our Pastoral Associates team calling every single one of our members to check in and just say hi and find out if all is well and if anything is needed.  We have members who have offered to go shopping for other members who can’t leave the house.  We are a community and we are still a community.  We are coming together in a new way.

And our DRE Shawn is working on activities online for our children and youth to be able to get together.  Stay tuned for those possibilities too!

Yes, things are different.  Yes, we wish they were the same.  And some of us are tech savvy and feel like this is an easy transition.  And others are not and are dreading being online, might be scared of it, might not have the equipment to be online.  So we need to help each other find our ways to connect, to show that we are a community.

Thank you so much to all the members helping us live through this new time!  Thank you Board of Trustees, all the members on the Pastoral Associates team, our DRE Shawn, our Office Administrator Sandra, all the people helping with tech and scheduling.  We know you are there doing this work and we thank you and are very grateful for your service.

Help each other, remember each other, talk to each other, know that there are so many out here for you.  If you have a need, there’s someone in this community that can help you fill it.

We are here for you.

I feel blessed to have each and every one of you in my life.

Stay safe, stay healthy, blessings to you all.

In love,

Rev. Jo

 

Women’s History Month

This Sunday we will be honoring International Women’s Day during the month of March which has been designated Women’s History Month.  In looking at quotes made memorable about women, I have been struck by how these quotes spotlight a woman’s role as wife and mother and not the qualities that we just consider as human.   One from Ruth Bader Ginsburg:

“My mother told me two things constantly. One was to be a lady and the other was to be independent, and the law was something most unusual for those times because for most girls growing up in the ’40s, the most important degree was not your B.A. but your M.R.S.”

Many of the quotes I read felt very demeaning and misogynistic towards women.  It came from the era in which they were spoken.  So many of the quotes were a century or more old, and only those true pioneers of old recognized the role women played during that time.  Louisa May Alcott wrote: “Women have been called queens for a long time, but the kingdom given them isn’t worth ruling.”  She epitomized the spirit of women who saw life as giving so much more than they were allowed to have.  Even Ralph Waldo Emerson stated: “The age of a woman doesn’t mean a thing. The best tunes are played on the oldest fiddles.”  Would he have said that regarding a man?  I doubt that age was even considered for men, other than to denote wisdom and experience.

We’ve come so far as a gender.  Female identified people are able to pursue so many more dreams today than even 40 years ago.  When I was very young, about the age of 8 or so, I told my father I wanted to become a doctor, as I had seen a documentary on the first heart transplant at school, narrated by Walter Cronkite.  He informed me that I couldn’t be a doctor, but I could be a nurse because men were doctors and women were nurses.  I pointed out that our family doctor was a woman and he said, yes but that’s because she inherited the business when her husband, our former family doctor, died.  I was too young to realize that she would have had to complete all the degrees and requirements to gain access to a medical practice and accepted what he said.  I was disappointed but I moved on.

My how life has changed.  I don’t believe today any child would accept that they couldn’t be what they wished to be.  And so many more parents would not dream of telling their female identified children they couldn’t be something that they give permission to their male identified children.   Yes, there is still much to be done.  Our transgendered children are still prohibited from truly living the life they wish to live.  There is much, much work to be done.  This month, let us revel in the victories we have experienced and let us rejoice in the strength and courage we are seeing in our young people.  Change is happening and as Unitarian Universalists we are a part of that change.  Thank you for all the work you are doing to give inherent worth and dignity to all people in the world.

Generous and grateful blessings to you all,

Rev. Jo

 

 

Generosity and Gratitude

Someone said in passing the other day that generosity was the flip side of gratitude.  We went our separate ways and there the discussion ended, but it got me to thinking.  What could they have meant by that?  I had not coupled these two words together with any interpretation of meaning before.

Generosity has a couple of different definitions.  To be generous is to be giving, to be kind and to be lavish and magnanimous.  It also has a definition of bounty, of abundance, of being plentiful, having a generous amount of something.  Gratitude is being thankful for someone or for what someone has done or something that has happened.  They can be similar but they also are different.  Both generosity and gratitude make me feel better, they make me feel happy.  When I am generous, I am not thinking about myself, I’m thinking about the other person and feeling that I am helping in some way.  When I am grateful I am thinking about my own abundance, seeing how much I really have in making an abundant life, and appreciating all that life is giving me. Generosity is a quality we possess and gratitude is an emotion.  They do go hand in hand.  When someone is generous to me, I feel gratitude to that person.  When I am generous to someone else, I can feel their gratitude towards me.

What happens when we feel we are being generous to someone and we don’t feel any gratitude coming back?  It actually shouldn’t matter, as being generous is generally not done so that someone will be grateful to you.  And if that is the case, that you are expecting someone to be grateful, then are you really being generous?  Generosity comes with no strings attached, no expectations; it’s a matter of going one step beyond what is expected from, as they say, “the goodness of your heart.”  That’s the part sometimes that we forget and the part of generosity that we always need to remember.  When we are generous we do feel good, we are doing it for the benefit of others and not for something in return.  We are doing it because we see someone or something in need and want to help.  That should be the only reason.

And I’m feeling a bit these days that that quality, for generosity is a quality, is lost in our culture.  I want everyone to experience that feeling of joy and abundance when giving to someone else and expecting absolutely nothing in return.  That quality should be part of the human experience, part of raising our children, part of our society.  Generosity is probably one of the most important qualities to have as human beings.

Let’s revive the quality of generosity.  And I’ll bet any money that when we do, our gratitude meter will also go up.  They are the flip side of each other in many ways and if we can hold both the quality and the emotion in our hearts, we will be grateful and generous to others.  And that is what I believe the world needs right now.

Generous and grateful blessings to you all,

Rev. Jo

 

Ministerial Musings

The Impeachment hearings have begun.  I decided to watch a bit of it that I taped and then realized how anxious I was feeling and decided to stop.  In this month where we are thinking of the theme of belonging, I didn’t feel that sense of belonging that I wished to feel.  I was only feeling anxious, angry, frustrated and sad watching people who are in positions of power say things to each other that were either wrong or completely untrue or meant to hurt.  I didn’t want to fall into this trap where I felt this way and also felt helpless to make an effect, to make any change as to what was happening in this world outside of me.

 

What do you do when you want to change something that you do not have the power to change?  It’s a lesson in futility most of the time.  And yet there’s that old saying, if you’re not part of the solution, you are part of the problem.  Do we have the power to make change in this world? Or do we hold that power and don’t even realize it?

I believe we do.  So when I turned the channel, Ellen came on and she had a segment where she brought a family in from New Jersey to tell their story.  One of the children, an 8-year old boy, had been saving up his ice cream money and allowance and whatever money he got, to send to Ellen to save a Gorilla.  She has a foundation she began to build a sanctuary for the endangered gorillas in Rwanda and this little boy decided to give everything he had to her to save a gorilla.  It was so heartwarming it brought tears to my eyes.  This husband and wife with three children were living with their parents because they had recently become homeless and here they were, supporting their son, collecting over $300 to give to this foundation to help save gorillas that desperately need saving.  It may seem like such a little thing, but it was making a difference in the only way they knew how, even as they had nothing of their own.

What small thing can you do this week to help the to change the world?  We just honored Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. on Monday and his lasting wish was to make change, to change the systemic racism, economic inequality and militarism in our country.  He made a profound change, he was a man of great dignity and honor, and yet, how much have we changed in this country?  There are times when I think, if he couldn’t do it, what in the world could I do?  What kind of change could I make?  Then I see stories like this little 8-year old boy and I know that it’s not the outcome of the change that should spur me on but the mere act of doing it.

Change is inevitable.  Nothing stays the same.  So every morsel of kindness that we can provide the world is a conduit for change, not the result we wish to see, not the effect our presence will make, but the mere act of thinking of another living being and working to make their lives more comfortable and safe.  That helps me to feel true belonging in this interdependent web of all existence of which we are a part.

May you find a morsel of kindness to spread to another living being this week.Blessings to you all,

Rev. Jo

Happy Glorious New Year!

Happy glorious New Year of 2020 to you all!  It’s a brand new year, one full of possibility.  That’s always the feeling I have at the beginning of a new year, how much delightful brilliant happenings are there to anticipate.  The beginning is always more joyous to me than what happens next.  It might be overly theatrical of me to anticipate what the new year holds and then it doesn’t measure up.  That is a character defect I need to work on.  On the other hand, it is delightful to revel in this feeling of anticipation and hopefulness.  I indeed wish to feel that all the time.

We have choices to make when we feel different feelings.  My Spiritual Director has often told me how I think a thought and that brings on a feeling.  I used to argue with her that it was the opposite.  No, I would say, don’t we feel the feeling first and then think the thought?  On the contrary she said, your thoughts influence what you feel.  And if you decide to act on that thought, you will feel a feeling supporting that thought.  Or you can choose to recognize that thought and discard it and a corresponding feeling will not arise.

I knew she was right and I’ve been working on paying more attention to my thoughts.  I’m also wondering if all the energy people are expending right now to hate or resent or antagonize others is hovering over us like a cloud that can be suffocating.  We’re putting out so much animosity into the world right now that it has to have an effect on us.  These thoughts are bringing about feelings that we then are choosing to act upon or not.  The theme this month is Belonging and there’s a lot of anti-belonging sentiment swirling about us right now.  The dangerous animosity between us and Iran, the actions of our administration that could be viewed as murder, all of this energy is spinning around us and it must be having an effect on us.  I am feeling such tension in myself just from day to day knowing that any minute we could be on the brink of war, yet another conflict we will be sending our troops to fight.  And it feels like it’s escalating and that only creates more fear.

What can we do in our communities to combat this?  Individually we can all create practices in our daily lives to calm ourselves, to give ourselves a sense of peace within.  We can also bring those practices to our communities and gather each other together to combat these feelings of acrimony or bitterness.  But will that community spread out into others, into other states or even countries, to combat the direction we seem to be traveling?  Do we have enough of an influence to turn the tide, build a bridge, hold hands with others to create a more peaceful existence?  I don’t have an answer for that.  I do know that we need to try.  We need to consider how we combat these dangerous feelings, how do we change the thoughts before they bring about feelings, before they bring about actions, before it affects the entire world?  How can we influence the thoughts in the beginning so that we can bring about change?  How do we help others to change their way of thinking to ones of peace, consideration, thoughtfulness and service?

The only way I know is by example.  It could be a slow sluggish way to make change, but it seems to be the only way to be effective.  Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., who we will be honoring in a couple of weeks, said, “Change does not roll in on the wheels of inevitability, but comes through continuous struggle. And so we must straighten our backs and work for our freedom. A man can’t ride you unless your back is bent.”

It will be a continuous struggle to change the direction our world is in, the division, the animosity, the cruelty.  Continuous struggle can seem inexhaustible and eternal if that is the thought you have.  But if you begin with the opposite thought – that it can be achievable and reachable, you will then feel that feeling and be able to continue.

So let us in this new year, check our thoughts and guide them towards the feelings we wish to feel.  We will all be better for it.

Blessings to you all in this brand new glorious year,

Rev. Jo

 

 

 

Ministerial Musings – Thanksgiving Week

Grateful Thanksgiving everyone!  It isn’t always the happiest of times, the holidays, but I hope you can look at this season as a time of gratitude and hope.  There are times when the holidays bring on painful memories and I pray that for you all out there that your memories and experiences will be peaceful and gentle ones.

 

I was privileged to MC the Tri-City Interfaith Council’s annual Thanksgiving Service Monday evening at St. Joseph’s with Shamsa Rafay another Council member.  In this service I was reminded by Pastor Jeff Spencer of how it is up to us to change the narrative we have been raised with about this holiday.  He preached about the false history we have grown to believe, how we have neglected to acknowledge the damage we have done to the First Nations who had always lived here, how the racism and destruction of millions of people were viewed as inconsequential.

It can be so disheartening to review this history and feel the guilt and shame that we must feel on knowing that we did this.  But there is hope.  For we can view our history, acknowledge our participation in it, and vow to take action to rectify and repair what we have done in the past.  One of the reparations I give every November is to donate to the First Nations Development Institute and to the American Indian College Fund.  I have been doing this for over 10 years now and feel that is one way I can make reparations for what my government did in the past.  Our government has not taken steps to repair the damage we have done, so maybe it is time for us to do it.  And it doesn’t have to be to those organizations, those are just examples, but to give to those organizations that are helping Native Americans to recover and begin to thrive could be a first step in helping to mend and to heal the First Nations and ourselves.  For when we carry the scars of what our ancestors wrought, it is a burden that we don’t even know we are carrying.  Reparation heals both sides of the damage.  Our country would benefit with this repair as much as the First Nations would.

 

So let us celebrate this Thursday and keep in our hearts all of those in need, for there are many.  If you can volunteer or donate time or money to those who are truly in need, isn’t that the greatest way to give thanks?  Let not our privilege get in the way of helping others.  Let us be grateful and serve those in need.

Have a Grateful Thanksgiving.

Grateful Blessings to you all,

Rev Jo